Are you jealous of someone who seems to “have it all”? No matter how hard you try to cover it with a smile, envy isn’t something that goes away on its own. You might be doing well, but there is always going to be someone that is doing much better than you. Here are ten effective ways to stop jealousy in its tracks and not allow it to rule your life and your overall outlook on life any longer.
1. Magtiwala ka sa sarili mo. Kung anong meron sila magkakaroon karin. Kung kaya nilang magkaroon ng kung anong meron sila, makakaya mo rin.
Be confident and pursue your own dreams. Jealousy is a way of accepting failure. Why are you jealous? Don’t you think you are capable of achieving the same pleasures as the object of your jealousy some day? Jealousy is your mind’s subconscious way of giving up and whining about how unfair life is. Don’t succumb to it. Instead, go out there and prove that you’re better. Life isn’t easy. But with serious effort and dedication, you can achieve your own dreams. Base your happiness on your own achievements and not someone else’s achievements, or you’ll find yourself angry and bitter all the time.
2. Huwag mong ikumpara ang sarili mo sa iba. Kung parati ka na lang nakatingin sa buhay ng ibang tao. Hindi mo mapapatakbo at maplaplanong maayos ang iyong buhay.
In this world where everyone’s lives are open for all to see through social networks, it’s easy to constantly compare yourself with your peers and competitors.While healthy competition is a good sign, blatant jealousy isn’t. If you want to be successful in life, be your own competition. Compare your own past and try to get better every single day. It’ll help you become the best you can be without falling prey to petty jealousy.
3. Huwag pangunahan kung ano ang iniisip ng ibang tao. Matutong magtiwala.
Living a life that follows the ideal notions of what other people think is a terrible way to live. It makes you become the spineless spectator who waits for other people to take action first. It makes you become a follower.Worst of all, it makes you become someone who doesn’t take a stand for anything.
4. Tanggapin mo sa sarili mo na nararamdaman mo ang inggit.
You have no idea what it took for them to get there. Don’t act like this was unearned, effortless, or pure dumb luck. Why does it bother you if some other person achieves something better than you? There are so many people in the world. Why are you associating all your jealousy and triumphs with just this one person? Aren’t you being small minded and stagnated by worrying over petty fights when there’s a whole world of opportunities out there?
5. Huwag kayong mainggit sa kapwa. Masama na yun, masakit pa. Lalo na kung ang kinaiinggitan mo ay ang taong dati mong minamaliit noong walang wala pa siya.
Deal with it. Some people have better lives and better opportunities. What are you going to do about it? You can’t do a thing other than create your own successes. Fantasizing about your jealousy will take you nowhere. You know that already, don’t you?