How to Get Your Girl Back
Relationships often end in an impulsive decisions. Maybe because you said a few things you didn’t mean, and you hurt her feelings that’s why she fought back. Now that you’d a little bit of time to think about what’s been lost, you know you want her back. If you put your heart and mind to it, you might be able to get your girl back. Fixing whatever went wrong can prove that you’ve changed. Winning a girl back is much harder than catching the eye of a new girl, but if you really want to reignite an old flame, there are a few things you can do to maximize your chances. To get her back, you have to make her want you, show how much you’ve changed, and then make the move.
1.Stay busy. Though you should avoid getting busy in the bedroom while you’re trying to win your girl back, you should try to live a busy and active life so you can work on being independent and pursuing your interests. If you’re just sitting around waiting for enough time to pass to start trying to hang out with her again, she’ll know. Continue pursuing your hobbies and interests. Don’t stop doing all of the things you love because your heart is aching. Spend time with your friends. They’ll cheer you up and lend you a fresh perspective. Work out. Your self-esteem will improve if you exercise a few times a week, and all the better if she sees you out running.
2.Give her some space. The first thing you need to do is give the girl some space. If you start knocking down her door and calling her every five minutes she’ll only pull further away from you. Don’t call her, chat with her at parties, or email her just to see how she’s doing. If you see her socially, be polite and say hi, but make it clear that you’re not going to bother her. Just don’t give her too much space. If you leave her alone for a few months, that will give her plenty of time to find someone new.
3.Give yourself some time to reflect. Not only should you give her some space, but you should give yourself some space to reflect and think about what went wrong in the relationship. Take the time to sit down and ask what you did to make her not want you; were you too attentive, too moody, or too distant? Whatever you did, you have to make sure never to do it again if you want a moment of her day. Write down the things that went wrong. Consider what you can do to improve this kind of behavior. Don’t date anyone else during the reflection period. Focus on self-improvement and working on not repeating the same mistakes.
4.Take her out. If she agrees to go out with you, you better do it right this time. You’re lucky enough to be getting a second chance, and third chances are hard to come by. Make the most of your time together and make sure to treat her right.
5.Let her see you having a great time. Once you’ve given her some space and have worked on self-improvement, she’ll be much closer to wanting you. But now you have to put all the pieces together and let her see what an amazing guy you are and how much fun it is to be around you. Let her see you being your best self. There was obviously something she liked about you, so use your assets to your advantage.
6.If you hurt her, apologize. If you really want her back, you have to be the man and apologize for what went wrong. If she was hurt by you, she’ll want to stay away from you for fear of getting hurt again. So man up and tell her you made a mistake. Make sure to do this in person. Be sincere. Don’t be disappointed if she doesn’t accept your apology right away. If she doesn’t accept it, she’s probably still working through what happened but still appreciates your effort.
7.Make her want you again. Turn up the romance factor. Bring her flowers and take her to a romantic restaurant. Compliment her. Let her know she looks nice when you pick her up, and compliment her throughout the date. Let her know how much you’ve missed her. Find one or two moments during the date when you tell her how glad you are to have her in your life. In the end, be yourself. You can become a better listener, a more attentive person, or just learn to understand her needs, but in the end, you’re still you, and you should make sure she likes who you really are.
8.Tell her how you feel. Once she wants you a bit more and can see that you’re a different person, it’s time to stop playing games and to tell her how you really feel. Tell her at the right place and time. Maintain eye contact when you tell her. It’s time to be open and honest and to share your true feelings. Tell her how much you’ve changed and how much you’d love to give it another try.
9.Keep the girl this time. If the date went well, and if there are more dates to follow, you need to make sure the relationship doesn’t end for the same reason if you really want to stay with this girl. If she’s a keeper, you must remind yourself that you have to continue making her feel special. Remind yourself what happened the last time, and vow not to do it again. Look at it as starting fresh. You don’t have to rehash the old relationship, but work on building something completely new and much better.