Are you jealous of someone who seems to “have it all”? No matter how hard you try to cover it with a smile, envy isn’t something that goes away on its own. You might be doing well, but there is always going to be someone that is doing much better than you. Here are ten effective ways to stop jealousy in its tracks and not allow it to rule your life and your overall outlook on life any longer. 1. Magtiwala ka sa sarili mo. Kung anong meron sila magkakaroon karin. Kung kaya nilang magkaroon ng kung anong meron sila, makakaya mo rin. Be confident and pursue your own dreams. Jealousy is a way of accepting failure. Why are you jealous? Don’t you think you are capable of achieving the same pleasures as the object of your jealousy some day? Jealousy is your mind’s subconscious way of giving up and whining about how unfair life is. Don’t succumb to it. Instead, go out there and prove that you’re better. Life isn’t easy. But with serious effort and dedication, you can achieve your own dreams. Base your happiness on your own achievements and not someone else’s achievements, or you’ll find yourself angry and bitter all the time. 2. Huwag mong ikumpara ang sarili mo sa iba. Kung parati ka na lang nakatingin sa buhay ng ibang tao. Hindi mo mapapatakbo at maplaplanong maayos ang iyong buhay. In this world where everyone’s lives are open for all to see through social networks, it’s easy to constantly compare yourself with your peers and competitors.While healthy competition is a good sign, blatant jealousy isn’t. If you want to be successful in life, be your own competition. Compare your own past and try to get better every single day. It’ll help you become the best you can be without falling prey to petty jealousy. 3. Huwag pangunahan kung ano ang iniisip ng ibang tao. Matutong magtiwala. Living a life that follows the ideal notions of what other people think is a terrible way to live. It makes you become the spineless spectator who waits for other people to take action first. It makes you become a follower.Worst of all, it makes you become someone who doesn’t take a stand for anything. 4. Tanggapin mo sa sarili mo na nararamdaman mo ang inggit. You have no idea what it took for them to get there. Don’t act like this was unearned, effortless, or pure dumb luck. Why does it bother you if some other person achieves something better than you? There are so many people in the world. Why are you associating all your jealousy and triumphs with just this one person? Aren’t you being small minded and stagnated by worrying over petty fights when there’s a whole world of opportunities out there? 5. Huwag kayong mainggit sa kapwa. Masama na yun, masakit pa. Lalo na kung ang kinaiinggitan mo ay ang taong dati mong minamaliit noong walang wala pa siya. Deal with it. Some people have better lives and better opportunities. What are you going to do about it? You can’t do a thing other than create your own successes. Fantasizing about your jealousy will take you nowhere. You know that already, don’t you?
How To Love In A Right Way?
Do you ever wonder what it means to really love someone? Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. We all want to share love with someone, to receive love, to feel loved. Here are 5 ways to truly show and express your love for someone. 1. Kailangan marunong tayong umunawa sa ating minamahal. Understanding each other begins with open, honest, two-way communication and is the key to a healthy relationship. An important reason for being in a relationship is to feel understood and respected, that our partner know who we really are and that they accept our weaknesses alongside our strengths. 2. Mas maganda if you say sweet nothings sa kanya or do any act of kindness to him that will caught him by surprise. When we love someone, it is in our nature to want to show them how much we adore and appreciate them. The feeling of giving someone else happiness is far more intense than doing something for yourself! 3. Ipakita mo na interesado ka sa lahat ng aspeto ng buhay niya. Dapat lagi kayong may time para sa isat-isa. Part of loving someone is being supportive, encouraging them to be the best version of themselves. Sometimes, it means holding a mirror up for them to see what is, or isn’t, serving them. Love cradles, nurtures and fosters growth and development. If you’re having a hard time supporting or nurturing someone, ask yourself why? Peel back three layers, again. Relationships are a great way to learn about ourselves. Challenges are the perfect opportunity to find hidden fears, self-limiting beliefs, and characteristics needing some practice/work. So much of ourselves can be discovered by taking a look at the way we treat other people, especially those we love. 4. Napakaimportante na palagi mong naipapakita at nasasabi mo sa kanya kung gaano mo siya kamahal. Whether you have been in the relationship for 5 years or 5 days, always tell and show him/her that you love them so much. We all love to hear that we are so important from anyone really; but when it comes directly from our lover, it means so much more. You don’t need to come up with anything fancy or extravagant. Just tell him/her how they mean so much to you. These simple little things will make him/her feel loved and wanted, and that’s a winning combination. 5. Kailangang may tiwala tayo sa minamahal natin. Dapat tayo ang kanyang number 1 fan. Stop worrying that your other half is going to leave you or wrong you or let you down. Have some faith and, in return, they will have faith in you. Be his/her number 1 fan. Stay truthful to yourself and they will reflect this beautiful truth straight back to you. And keep showing all of your colors to them—your light and your darkness. Because if they truly love you and value you, as long as you do all of this, they’re not going anywhere.